Friday, 15 June 2012
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Now everything after you is like having wine after whiskey...

So, I think I miss Ryan so much because I miss who I was when I was with him. When I was with him I believed in love and all that stuff I just miss being as happy as I was when I was with him. I miss who I used to be when he was mine. Does that make sense? And the crazy thing is that if he apologized and just explained himself, I'd take him back. I'd take that idiot back. I know I should get over him and all that but something keeps pulling me back. Maybe this is me holding onto something that isn't there but I just have this weird feeling about Ryan... I don't know what it is but I don't think he's completely gone yet.
Then again, this could be me trying to hold onto something that isn't there.
Advice?
“Life likes to knock you down to see if you can get back up. One of these days, I’m going to punch life back, enough is enough.”

You have to understand that I’m not the girl I used to be…I struggle with the choices I’ve made and I make mistakes, and half the time I wonder who I really am or what I’m doing or whether my life means anything at all.
-Amanda Collier

There are things in life we don’t want to happen, but have to accept; things we don’t want to know, but have to learn, and people we can’t live without, but have to let go.

I just want to know if you meant everything you said. I don’t want you back, I don’t want an apology, I just want the truth. I want to know if what we had was even worth fighting for in the first place. I want to know if I cross your mind, I want to know if you realize just how much you messed up.

Maybe if my heart stops beating it won't hurt this much. And never will I have to answer again to anyone. Please don't get me wrong, because I'll never let this go. But I can't find the words to tell you. I don't want to be alone, but now I feel like I don't know you. One day you'll get sick of saying that everything's alright. And by then I'm sure I'll be pretending, just like I am tonight.

there are moments in our lives when we find ourselves at a crossroad, afraid, confused, without a roadmap. the choices we make in those moments can define the rest of our days. of course when faced with the unknown, most of us prefer to turn around and go back.
-Lucas Scott

Don't be afraid to make mistakes, stumble, and fall because most of the time the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you'll get more than you ever imagines. Who knows where life will take you? The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.

There comes a time in everyone's lives where they learn that the only way to live happy is to grasp, embrace, love life and the person that they are. And when they stop loving themselves and start relying on others to do it for them.. well, that's when they truly start to lose themselves and the happiness that they started to feel.

And now I can't forget all of the little things we said with confidence. Oh, I was once told that every good thing we have must come to a bitter end.

You're not in love with me, not really, you just love the way I always made you feel. Like you were the center of my world. Because you were. I would have done anything for you.

It’s like you’re screaming, and no one can hear… you almost feel ashamed, that someone could be that important.That without them you feel like nothing. No one will ever understand how much it hurts…You feel hopeless, like nothing can save you. And when it’s over, and it’s gone…you almost wish that you could have all that bad stuff back. So that you could have the good.


Family is not always blood. It’s the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile, and who love you no matter what.

I don't want to sit around and hope good things will happen. I want to make them happen. I want to be in control of my own destiny
-Drew Barrymore

I just can’t tell you what you want to hear which seems to be a theme in my life. Just because you can’t tell someone doesn’t mean you can’t feel it. You can be with someone and be happy and not love them. Or you can love them and not be with them.

You're still young. Don't make your life miserable by thinking about problems. Instead, always think that in every problem there's a solution and everything will be okay. Do what you think is right. Take risks, try new things, laugh and live as if there's no tomorrow, for the next years of your life you'll have no choice but to be more responsible. So enjoy while you're still young and vibrant.
“I love that moment. When you’re on a long car ride, or listening to music, or reading. And you completely zone out. You forget your troubles, and everyone around you. You’re focused on that one thing, and that one thing only. You’re content, and everything seems peaceful.”
“Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right regrets.”
We cling to music, to poems, to quotes, to writing, to art, because we desperately do not want to be alone. We want to know we aren’t going crazy and someone else out there knows exactly how you’re feeling. We want someone to explain the things we can’t. We love everything tied up neatly, easy, simple. And when we can’t do that, it scares the hell out of us. To not know the next step, or where you’re headed, kills. Being unsure isn’t in our plans. But it’s those moments, the ones where you risk it and step unknowingly into the future, that assures us life is larger than we’ll ever know.

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Comments (12)
=( Im sorry. I know how you feel. It's hard to find yourself after a relationship like that. I was in one that was just..awful for me. The guy was bad to me but I loved him and it took me 2 years to get away from him. I felt like I had lost myself after. But let me tell you, you will find someone better. You don't need a guy to define you as a person. I had to be single for a year or so before I found someone who was amazing and treated me good and I am happier than ever. Hold out for that. You deserve the best!Â
love this, recd.
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I'm sure you're going to hear it over and over, "I know how you feel." when really, no one does. But we can relate. So... I can relate. I know what it's like to miss who you were when you were with someone else. There's nothing wrong with that, but I'm a firm believer that you have to love yourself more than someone else. You're beautiful inside and out, love yourself for that. This Ryan guy sounds like he made a mistake letting you go. I know that you would take him back, I've been there. It's up to you to decide that you deserve better, AND YOU DO. If he didn't want to stick around, give him the reason to regret his decision. You're too good for him to make you feel down. Smile hun and feel better (:
I'm sorry about Ryan. That's sad & hey if you wanna take him back then ( like the comment above ) give him something to regret. Silly boy didn't know what kind of a girl he had and he blew it. Think he likes the way regret tastes? He seems like one of those bad boys... (le duh). So I get how you're still into him. Sorry again.
Here's the advice: give him hell.
Cute update and thanks for the comment on mine :) I feel so bad about your boyfriend situation but i think the best thing to do is just be done. Its going to take a while to get use to but usually when people decide to get back together anyways they don't work out.
i understand when you say that you miss you who were when you were with him. he probably brought out things in yourself that you never knew existed right? i was in a similar situation, and the guy i liked gave me butterflies, broke down my walls, made me genuinely happy, all those things that i had never thought possible. if you have a gut feeling, then chances are it's probably not totally over. guys usually realize a lot later that they missed out on someone great. but you need to think about it this way-- there's a reason why you guys broke up. he made the mistake of not realizing what he had when he had it. i believe that things happen for a reason, and i know it's hard, but you need to believe that you have to move on. if it's meant to be, he'll come back. it's so damn cliche, but it's also really true. in the meanwhile, try and keep yourself busy, spend time with friends, find ways to be happy without him.
I know exactly how you feel.:/ We all go through this kind of stuff, and I know it sucks majorly. But if you really feel like there's still a chance, maybe you should at least try and talk it out with him. And even if it's not what you want to hear, you still have closure and you can start to heal and move on.:P
But on a brighter note, you have an amazing site and I loved this update! And thank you so much for the comment on mine, it really means a lot! Of course, rec'd.i am going through something very similar to you right now, it appears.. my own relationship with the love of my life, the man i said to myself i would marry the moment i first saw him, has recently ended, and i don't know how to let it go, and try to move on. i don't know if it's because i'm too stubborn to admit that i'm wrong, or if it's because i'm really actually not wrong, and that the problem right now is the timing and the distance between us, rather than the fact that we're not supposed to be together. hang in there, kiddo.. you've got my support.
lovely update sweetie! i loved all the quotes, you pick out such great ones! & i hope everything goes well with you &+ the boy---just hang in there &+ always listen to your heart-it will always tell you the right thing to do! <3 :)
This post was soooo easy to relate too!
I stumbled across this on google and i am so grateful that i did.i know that everyone has their heart broken at one point or another, but this feeling seriously sucks. I feel as though i cant explain how i feel to anyone because i feel like they wont understand. The worst thing is when i try to talk to someone about it and they dismiss me by saying "oh well, it wont be your first and it certainly wont be your last". It's like COME ON really. dont insult me like that. In some weird way, this makes me feel better because it's letting me know that i'm not alone. I'm so sorry that you have to experience this as well but
THANK YOUfor putting everything into words that I want to say. It's helping me through the grief.